I want to suck cock. Does this mean I’m gay? There are many reasons why a straight man would want to suck cock. Basically, each reason is as unique as the man himself. In my work as a domination phone sex mistress, however, I see a few recurring themes.
If you are a submissive man, you may find yourself thinking about sucking cock often, but in your fantasy a woman is always present. This is very, very common. It is not the man that excites you, but the forfeiture of your manhood for your Mistress that you find erotic.
You want to sacrifice for your Mistress. You want your service to Her to cost you. What do you have that is more dear to you than your manhood? For you, a cock is merely an instrument that enables you to demonstrate your level of commitment to your Mistress.
The disembodied cock is a very interesting twist on the cock sucking fantasy. You don’t necessarily need a woman to be present to be turned on by sucking cock. At the same time, it isn’t the man the cock is attached to that interests those who enjoy this fantasy.
In this fantasy, sucking a strap-on dildo or a silicone cock with a suction cup base isn’t enough for you. You want to suck a real, live, in the flesh, cock. You want to gag on it, you want to be humiliated by sucking cock. Perhaps you want the man attached to the cock to get a little (or a lot) aggressive. But once you take a big load of cum in your mouth, your preference would be for the man (and his cock) to vaporize and instantly disappear.
This fantasy is a demonstration of submission. However, this particular submission isn’t dependent on a woman’s presence. You will more than likely enjoy telling your Mistress how naughty and dirty you were. And you will probably enjoy some teasing about how a big thick cock makes you hard. But she does not need to be there, on the scene, for you to derive sexual excitement.
Ah. Now this is one of the most confusing fantasies of all. You actually want and desire for a specific man to be present. You think about his body, you think about him, you think about this man dominating you and turning you into a little cocksucker bitch. How could you not be gay?
Generally, when I am asked my opinion about whether a man is gay and I find he has cock sucking fantasies such as these, I ask more questions.
Are you sexually aroused by women?
Do you want to have a relationship with this man, i.e. go out to dinner with him, hold hands with him, gaze into his eyes, hug, kiss, and fondle him?
Is it how the man makes you feel, or do you think your fascination has to do with how his cock makes you feel?
These distinctions are clues to sexual orientation. In my experience, a gay man wants to be another man’s lover. Just getting on his knees and sucking his dick is hardly enough. He wants the rest of it, too. He wants to spend the night spooning his lover. Not merely get a mouthful of spooge and go along his merry way. You can be straight in all other areas of your life and still want a man to get balls-deep into your face. It happens a lot more than you think.
Overall, my opinion is that straight men can most definitely be cocksuckers. If you are in doubt, however, please don’t hesitate to contact your distance dominatrix and ask her about your specific situation. Chances are better than good that she has extensive experience speaking with many men just like you, and at the very least, she may help you feel “normal.” Here at LDW, cocksuckers are some of our favorite clients, so don’t be shy!