Sometimes fellas ask me if I would be willing to suck their dick. As a rather dominant woman, that’s a really fraught question! There’s questions of D/s appropriate actions, whether or not me putting my mouth on a penis is reinforcing or deconstructing patriarchal gender expectations, and, of course, has the recipient of the blow job earned it. You didn’t think I’d be handing out excellent oral to anyone who asked for it, did you? Does your Mistress suck cock? The answer is more complex than you think.
Does Your Mistress Suck Cock?
Let me start by advising you quite strongly to never open with, or lead with that question. Especially if it’s the first time you’re speaking with your Mistress! It can come off as pushy, like you expect her to answer with ‘of course, I’d love to suck your cock! Let me get in there right now!’ and that’s highly unlikely. If your Mistress does suck cock, she’ll likely offer it to you as an option. If you’re talking to a professional dominatrix, Mistress, or femdom that you have contacted in her professional role to perform a BDSM scene with you, you might ask about having your cock sucked, but you better be respectful and make it clear that you’re fine with a ‘no, I don’t do that.’
Patriarchal Gender Expectations
You should know by now that if you’re talking with me we’re gonna get a little deep with this shit. So, patriarchal gender expectations pervade every aspect of our lives in ways that are often unseen if one is a member of the privileged class. What that means is that men frequently remain blissfully unaware of how often women are expected to suck cock during sex, while men are relieved of the expectation to eat pussy, even in reciprocal oral. Dominant women are still expected in many sexual encounters to suck cock. Men new to the kink scene carry those expectations, lurking unseen and unacknowledged in their subconscious.
Earning A Blow Job
Does your Mistress suck cock, and is that in line with your D/s dynamic? It can be. And yes, sometimes your Mistress willl suck cock. I personally like to keep a little tongue and mouth action in reserve as a reward for exceptional good behavior. My submissives should learn that a blow job is rare, hard to earn, and a fucking honor for them to receive. Depending on how our dynamic works, a submissive might earn a blow job to completion, or, a blowie that ends in a ruined orgasm. Or maybe I’ll just tease his cock until he begs and then leave him that way. He got his cock sucked, what more did he want?
Want To Suck Mistress’ Cock?
How do you feel about a nice role reversal? I’ve often enjoyed flipping the script on impertinent men who want me to suck them off by donning my lovely strap and having them suck MY cock instead. My usual rule of thumb for sexual fun and games is that I will do almost anything, if you do them first. Want your Mistress to suck cock? Open wide, here comes the cock-plane! For fellas who get extra weirdly homophobic about cock sucking, I do have a stunt cock attached to a lovely man I can bring in to help you learn not to be so phobic.
Mistress Cock Sucking Tips
If you want to get your cock sucked, make sure you’re clean first. Go bathe. Use soap. Wash your dick, balls, and ass. The entire crack, please, and scrub well. I refuse to go anywhere near a penis that smells like anything other than clean skin and maybe some nice soap. No, spraying cologne on it does not count, and that makes it taste worse, so just wash you filthy fucker. Be respectful: don’t pull your Mistress’ hair, try to fuck her throat, or deploy insulting or degrading language while enjoying your blow job. Men who call me names while I’m being nice enough so suck their cock find themselves out on the front porch with blue balls, so don’t do it.
Beg For a Blow Job From Mistress Harper
I’d love to have you begging me to please suck your cock. I really enjoy getting to say ‘no’ to you, and break your heart. I’m a cocktease and a little bit sexually adventurous (that’s a lie, I’m a LOT adventurous), so calling me up and begging is a great way to make my day. As long as you’re ok with my decision regarding sucking your cock, it’s perfectly fine to ask me to reward you, if you’ve been really good. Or to ruin you, if you’ve been medium good.
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I fucking LOVE this!!!!!
I don’t suck subbie cock. ♀️ Or let subbies orally pleasure me.
But if a dude I’m dating wants me to suck the soul from his body with a blowjob, I expect (at the very least) to receive 3 orgasms from his tongue before I consider it.
Subbies should remain on their knees with their cocksucking lips firmly wrapped around my girlcock (or *any* cock) until I tell them otherwise.
You fucking rock, Harper!! Fuck those patriarchal gender expectations!
I tell you what, my “me first” attitude about oral is because I’ve given too many BJ’s in the past and gotten zip, zilch, and nada in return! So now everyone reaps the consequences of past rotten boyfriends that were unwilling to eat pussy. Me first!
Also, THANK YOU for your Mistress Cock Sucking Tips! Like seriously, no one is turned on by dick cheese. Wash yourself!
Y’know, you’d freaking THINK that washing your bits before you present them like they’re a prize would be common sense. You’d think that. And yet, I still have to routinely remind the men that they need to cleanse their pride and joy!
I think any subbie asking for a blowjob from their Mistress is likely asking the wrong initial question. I would suggest starting with “which and how many cocks can I be sucking for you Mistress”. This does not exclude oral from ever occurring, or being a reward, or ruined a reward, but if you haven’t asked my aforementioned question about sucking cock yourself first, I think you should.
On a personal note, if you’re going to ask ME to suck a cock beyond being clean it better be shaved, I do not abide by even stubble let alone a scraggly bush and stank. That’s just my preference though.
I like the way you think, Ivy! Put yourself where you belong, and acknowledge that you aren’t even allowed to even think of asking your Mistress for her perfect, precious mouth to touch your dick. Instead, yes, you get to lick and suck!